The magic of Human Design is that it influences and impacts every area of life. Imagine if you had a specific guide to know exactly how to show love to your partner. So that you always knew what they needed to feel loved and appreciated? Or even how to show support for them?
Guess what? That exists. And it’s not only in the 5 Love Languages (Gary Chapman describes the 5 Love Languages as how people prefer to give and receive love through acts of service, physical touch, receiving gifts, words of affirmation and quality time). The Human Design system gives you this awareness instantly in a unique way. You don’t even have to take a quiz to get the results.
The first place to start is the Human Design type. Find your partner’s type and see how you can adapt … explore each one below:
Manifestor:
Manifestors are designed to initiate and inform. When they do, listen to them. Sometimes they get so focused on doing what they are doing … this is when they need space. When you notice they are in this energy, give them space to focus on what lights them up. Manifestors feel annoyance and anger when they are out of alignment. This is not a projection on you, it is a sign that they are out of alignment. Allow your Manifestor partner space to process this anger in an empowered way. The key to happiness and alignment for your Manifestor partner is freedom. The more they experience freedom, the more harmony there is in the relationship.
Generator:
Generators are designed to respond. The more you can facilitate opportunities for response in a way that is binary, the more frustration is minimised. For example, ask “would you like to do this?” or “would you like to eat this or this?”. You know when your Generator partner is aligned because they will be lit up and excited about life. When they are not, they are frustrated, the best thing to support them is to get them back into their body and into movement. Happiness for your Generator partner comes from doing the things that light them up, not the things that they think they should or are obliged to. Honour their aligned decisions for harmony.
Manifesting Generator:
Manifesting Generators are playful and experimental. They move fast and it might not always make sense to you if you are in a relationship with them. Trust their energy to guide them and give them space to be immersed in their creative flow. Manifesting Generators feel frustrated or annoyed if they are out of alignment or if they have to redirect. Remind your Manifesting Generator that the redirect is part of their process, bring them back into their body and reconnect with joy and excitement. Use their response to get clarity on what they really want by asking binary questions. This will create more ease and harmony. Happiness for your Manifesting Generator partner comes from keeping life exciting and joyful.
Projector:
Projectors don’t have access to consistent energy so it is important that they listen to their body and rest. If you are not a Projector, you might feel frustrated that they are not as active as you. Rest for a Projector is important so that they are resourced when they are ready to move. It is productive to rest. Projectors are here to be recognised and invited to share their magic. The more you reflect to your Projector partner what they are brilliant at, the more they will also recognise themself. Inviting your Projector partner for opinions, and insights and reminding them how precious they are often, especially if they feel bitterness. Happiness for your Projector comes from focused alone time with you.
Reflector:
Reflectors are the most open to feeling the energy of those around them and the environment that they are in. Allowing and even encouraging time for your Reflector partner to be alone or to be in nature is so important for them to reconnect with themself and empowerment. Supporting your Reflector comes from understanding them and seeing them for who they are, and reminding them that they belong with you. Spend time with them and embrace patience with them and for them as they move through their decision-making process with the lunar cycle. When they feel pressure, reconnect them with trust as a way to support them. Disappointment disconnects Reflectors from alignment so notice when this happens and bring them back to finding surprise and delight in their life.
As an overview, this is a great place to start when it comes to understanding your partner. The more you have this awareness and use this, the more there is harmony and fulfilment in your relationship overall.
A new 5 Love Language framework … are you ready to embrace this?
